Are You too Quick to Dismiss a Potential Suitor?
Occasionally, I am approached by a client asking about the long-term or marriage potential of an individual they just met. I have counselled quite a few persons who flat refuse to waste their time on someone who may not appear to be their future spouse upon initially meeting.
This really saddens me because I cannot help but think about all the missed opportunities and great individuals these people will never know.
That is the whole purpose of dating: to get to know someone and determine their long-term potential and desires. Yet many people will not even give the time of day to a potential love interest unless they see a future with them. This only results in a sad and lonely existence.
Some of these people are among those who will sit on my sofa, crying because they are so lonely.
I understand that some people simply do not want to waste their time but often, these people justify being so quick to dismiss potential suitors by saying, “If it’s not going anywhere, why bother?”
I get that as well. But in all honesty, you cannot possibly know the true value of another person – and their potential as a mate – without actually spending time with them. Quality time.
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Consulting a Psychic is great and can provide you with valuable insight. But if you are quick to shut out a new acquaintance because that Psychic did not see them as being your future spouse, you may very well be passing on the one true love that Spirit has chosen for you.
The Psychic may not see this as your future spouse at the time for quite a few reasons, including the fact that simply having you in their life could alter what the Psychic saw. Marriage may be the furthest thing from his mind today, but after `taking a few months to get to know you, he may be out ring shopping.
Nothing is set in stone. Even God’s plans for us change as we choose to exercise our own free will. Be open to meeting new people and allowing them a chance before writing anyone off. Give others a chance.
Three Minutes
I once read a study that indicated women take only three minutes to decide if a potential suitor is worth their time. Women are often very quick to judge a potential partner by their physical looks, the way they dress, the way the speak, their scent and how they interact with the woman’s friends. Success and ambition are also gauged in only that brief three-minute encounter.
The study also showed that very few of these women would change their minds once they determined the new acquaintance to be unworthy of their time.
Three minutes is just a small blip in the grander scheme of life. It is not nearly enough time to determine whether or not someone would make a good potential mate.
Do not be so quick to dismiss someone just because you do not automatically see the potential of a long-term connection with them. You never know, maybe his buddy is the one you have been looking for all along.
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