Healing Our Childhood Wounds

Healing Our Childhood Wounds

We have asked ourselves many times why we react a certain way, feel emotionally incapable of handling a situation, unable to maintain healthy relationships or hear the voice in our head that somehow always points out our flaws. It always comes back to that insecure 4-year-old inner child that never sees your potential as a healthy functioning adult. Whether they were verbally said, by actions of emotional abandonment or physical mistreatment, the child will always take the blame for how they are treated as we have a built-in chip in our DNA that wants to please the people who we want to love us.

Events from our childhood, our first experiences, have the power to shape our lives. Some come with the positive encouragement to overcome challenges and make use of our talents and interests. In that environment, character is built and we make the first steps to building a strong foundation for our lives. On the other end of the spectrum are negative or unsupportive events that seem to lay dormant until adulthood, usually when our closest relationships bring out the deepest missing parts of ourselves.

Trust issues may come up, mimicking abusive behavior we witnessed as a child or constantly feeling as though we are searching for a missing piece of ourselves that will make us a whole person. No matter what your story is, you have the power within you to heal yourself at the deepest level. You now have the wisdom of an adult and you can be the loving parent or guardian you needed as a child. Knowing that we are each spiritual beings having a human experience, we can nurture ourselves from that wholeness, and then reach out to others as well.

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We have the ability to take that little wounded child within on any level and recreate scenarios with a different outcome of being nurtured and loved. It may feel phony or even ridiculous at first, but life is really just a play and we are the players. So, if you can imagine it, then you can feel it and once you feel it, it can become a reality. We may be able to imagine possible reasons a situation occurred as it did, and finally even accept that it happened and there was no other way it could have turned out with the broken players who were participating with you as a young child. Using the wisdom, you have acquired from age and experience, you can use those tools to see events from a different perspective, bringing new understanding and freeing yourself from any negative hold the past may have on you.

Life offers opportunities to clear old childhood wounds by caretaking the wounded child’s demands from within your heart to be loved unconditionally, nurtured, accepted, liked, praised and physically held in love. If you have spent a lifetime looking for someone to do all that for you, you have more than likely met with a lot of disappointment in people and yourself in needy situations. We can take that inner child that resides within your heart and do self-nurturing with a simple act of hugging ourself and saying all the things you have wanted to hear when you were young.

Learn mirror talk. Once again, it may feel stupid, phony and unrealistic at first but the more you do it, the more you will find you like it. Have a conversation with yourself in the mirror and start saying some kind things about you. Tell yourself, “I love you”. Make the mirror your imaginary best friend until she becomes real and you will then start believing what you are saying. You might find you need support to face the events of the past, so sometimes turning to a trained professional who can offer tools for healing can also be a valid choice. The most important thing to remember on the road to healing your inner child’s emotional wounds, is the child we were still lives on within us and knowing that, we have the power to go back and right old wrongs, correct mistaken perceptions, heal wounds, forgive, and begin anew.

Susan Z

Susan Z Rich is an emotional addiction counselor, spiritual intuitive and holistic therapist. She counsels others to see life in a more positive way and teaches personal accountability for life choices. She is also the author of several children’s books and Soul Windows…Secrets From The Divine.