Simple Guide To Surviving Christmas With Your In-Laws
Whether it is the first time you’re spending Christmas with your in-laws or it is a well-known war zone for you already, it is a truth universally acknowledged that Christmas gatherings usually take a toll on couples and that there are some family members that don’t really collaborate to make the environment nice and agreeable for everyone.
The truth is, though, that at the end of the day they are your partner’s family and they are important to them. Or even if it is you who has the difficult relatives, you can’t help but loving them, right? Here are a few tips, tricks and things to remember in order to make the holidays as merry as humanly possible!
1. Put yourself in their shoes
Whether it is your partner’s mother, father, sibling or cousin who is being not very nice to you, your partner probably feels just as uncomfortable as you with the situation and they are trying to avoid drama. Do not take it into consideration if it is something minor.
2. If you’re the latest addition to the family, expect to be questioned
This can be uncomfortable, and depending on the family’s level of closeness and openness things could get a bit too weird. – Trust me, I’ve been there. On my first day meeting my fiance’s family I was questioned about our bedroom life and his goodies! – If you don’t know what to do, smile politely! You can also try a loving way to share your discomfort that doesn’t make them feel bad. For instance “Wow! I love how open you guys are! I don’t know what to say, really…” and a little smile again, you’ve got this!
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3. If you have a declared open fire with a family member, kill them with niceness
This may sound easier said than done, but, let’s be honest. What is more annoying that trying to make someone jump in rage and only meeting the sweetest smiles? Eventually, they will look like a fool and you will look like a lady (or a gentleman!) and the best thing is that when it is time to address the issue with your partner, they’ll have nothing against you!
4. Make an effort to bond with at least one family member
It may sound silly, but having someone on your side is always helpful and in the long run they can be a bridge between the family and you. Paying a personal compliment usually helps with this, as does finding something in common with them.
5. And, the most important of them all: Remember that this will happen very few times a year!
Don’t make your relationship about it! Your partner is trying their best and so are you, at the end of the day we are all humans and sadly Christmas is not always about love and warmth! You are your own little family now, and the least you let it interfere, the better!
Psychic Sibyl is a Tarot and Lenormand reader and mentor with vast experience in the Occult. Her calling is to guide others through the most turbulent times in life as well as provide answers and most importantly, raise questions. For a psychic reading from Sibyl visit her profile page.