So You Think Blake Lively And Ryan Reynolds’ Life Is Perfect, Huh?
Well, Blake says otherwise. Try as she might to convince us otherwise, Blake Lively is low-key winning at life. She has an ab-tastic husband who moonlights as a wise-cracking superhero? Check. Cashing Gossip Girls residual checks until the end of time? Check. LA face and fabulous body? Check. Speaking with Glamour magazine in a new interview, Lively is keen on dispelling this notion of perfection but somehow ends up making life sound pretty damn good in the process. Take for example, how she describes her fights with Ryan Reynolds. “In other relationships, if something came up, I would call my girlfriends or my sister and say, ‘Hey, this is what he did—what should I do?’ Where with him, we were friends for two years before we were ever dating,” Lively explained. “And I treat him like my girlfriend. I’m like, ‘Hey, this happened. It upset me. This is how I feel. What do I do?’ And he does the same for me. He treats me like his best buddy.”
See? GOALS! The couple, who got married in 2012, have two children together, daughters James and Inez. Reynolds has become a social media favorite of late for his tweets about parenting, which Lively admits are “completely made-up.” “I’m so in love with him when he writes that stuff,” she said. “I mean, I’m in love with him most of the time, but especially with that.” When asked Lively why she felt the need to add “most of the time,” the actress said she qualified her statement in fear of being labeled as perfect. “I said, ‘Most of the time,’ because if I say, ‘I’m so in love with him all the time,’ then you get that eye-rolling, ‘Oh, her life is so great, she’s so perfect.’ So, it’s like, my defense mechanism.”
Ultimately, Lively sees this burden of perfection as damaging and something that’s unfairly ascribed to women. “It’s nonsense. It simplifies people,” Lively said about her public perception. “Not all men, but a subsection of men, have a desire to understand and control women. To do that, you have to paint them into this thing you can wrap your head around. But women are complex.” “It also is a reminder that what you see in the media is not real life,” she continued. “The night before an interview, I have complete anxiety: How is this person going to spin me? So when you read, ‘Oh, she’s got a perfect life,’ or ‘Her life is crumbling’, they pick narratives for everyone. And the narratives stick.”
Everyone’s Definition of Perfect Is, Of Course, Different But Blake’s Life Still Sounds Pretty Close
Susan Z’s Conclusion:
Blake said the magic words that all successful couples make about each other, “they were friends first.” As a long-time Life Coach, I have repeatedly seen between couples, the gap of unrealistic “over the moon” expectations of the one they love but also how friendship first allows you to have spinach in your teeth and you still think they are wonderful.
Four of Cups: Inverted (Upside Down)
This is feeling stuck and bored with life. Since pulled inverted, this shows exactly why their relationship works, keeping each other entertained with an authentic representation of self.
This is one of isolation and going within to know oneself. Pulled inverted, it shows the comradery that Blake and Ryan have in their marriage. Everything out in the open and in partnership.
Ace of Swords:
This is cutting away old crap that is no longer needed. I feel this card also shows their ability to let the past be the past and move forward together. Very nice!
Susan Z Rich is an emotional addiction counselor, spiritual intuitive and holistic therapist. She counsels others to see life in a more positive way and teaches personal accountability for life choices. She is also the author of several children’s books and Soul Windows…Secrets From The Divine.