The Perfect First Date
No matter how many times we’ve had a first date, the thrill is always the same. We put a lot of effort into our looks, the nerves, the excitement, the wondering… One can almost miss the excitement after having closed the deal! If you have decided to take the next step with your latest Tinder crush and want to see each other face to face to see what is it like, don’t forget to read these guidelines first to help you make the most out of your date!
Picking an outfit
An outfit for a first date shouldn’t be too over the top. We definitely want to make the best possible impression, but we can also set too high standards of what we look like that will not only make us feel perhaps uncomfortable during the date, but will increase our anxiety in following dates and consume a lot of time in the looks that we could be spending getting to know each other better. This doesn’t mean that you should go in sweatpants! Doll-up but keep it simple and avoid uncomfortable outfits that will have you paying more attention to whether everything is being kept in place than to your date.
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Picking a location
Quiet locations are best for first dates. Going to the movies can be tempting, but you will not have an actual chance to talk – by the way, the movies make a great plan for a second date! – and it can even increase your nervousness and discomfort. Starting with a cup of coffee is an ideal plan. If it turns out that Prince(ss) Tinder is actually a frog, you can always cut the date short when the coffee is over and don’t make it awkward, while if things go as expected and you click, you can always do something afterwards and continue your date.
How long it should last
Well, there’s no golden rule for how the ideal first date goes. I’ve known of a first date that turned into a two-week stay that turned into moving-in together that turned into a marriage proposal! The couple is technically still on their first date as of today! However, this is a rare happening and this is my personal rule: Stay for as long as you want as long as you are not neglecting other duties or plans. No matter how tempting, I won’t continue a first date if I have arranged that I will go have dinner with my friends, because starting a relationship by pushing your own plans back is not a good precedent.
After the date
Be honest about your thoughts after the first date! If you were satisfied with the encounter and you are interested in a second date, let them know! There’s nothing to lose and a lot to gain! As well, if you are less than charmed with your date and they want more, it’s good to be upfront but polite about it and let them know that you’re not interested to avoid keeping a person hanging.
Psychic Sibyl is a Tarot and Lenormand reader and mentor with vast experience in the Occult. Her calling is to guide others through the most turbulent times in life as well as provide answers and most importantly, raise questions. For a psychic reading from Sibyl visit her profile page.